Easter 2024 - Peace

May this Easter Day bring you much peace, joy, & love!

Summer 23'

I know Christmas is around the corner, but I already miss summer. Late summer & early fall in Michigan is the absolute shit. Warm, sunny, dry; flowers and plants still in bloom, but the leaves are turning colors and starting to fall. These are some photos I took one day late last August while walking through a local park. I felt very at peace that day, contemplative, ok with everything & myself. While taking my time, just randomly walking some small bridges in the park & over an adjacent pond, I remember thinking how content I felt and wished I felt this way all the time. (I think this is subconsciously my goal- to make more days in my life as conscience and alive as this day was.) Plus, the only thing I was drinking at the time was a vanilla malt I bought at a nearby Dairy Queen along the way.    

Another powerful reason.

Mid-September was my last drinking binder. I remember lying on the floor, just wearing shorts. Sweaty, dirty, smelly. I cocooned & drank for what seemed like a month; hadn't eaten for over a week, and thought I was dying. Part of me wanted to die, how could I let myself get to this state? I would talk to God, and myself, about all the reasons that I couldn't die. And thanking God for all the times He has already saved me and all that He has given me. But the biggest reason I couldn't die was my daughter, my first born; was going to have her first child, a little girl. That would make me a grandpa for the first time. I kept telling myself, "I can't go out, I have to be here for her, I have to be part of her life!" I kept clutching my Granddaughter's ultrasound photo, telling her that I will get back to my state of mind and I will be there for her. But, at that point, I needed a miracle.

A few days later there was a knock at my door, it was my Mom and my two brothers. They knew something was wrong and came to take me to the hospital, a miracle. I didn't think I was gonna last in that state much longer.

God was with me, again! God did not give up on me!

After the hospital, and then rehab, I was better and back home. And lucky enough to be back in time to be at the hospital when my Daughter gave birth to my Granddaughter. No words can describe the feelings I felt when I first saw her and touched her; it's like being in another dimension. She radiated so much light and love and new life, she is part of me. And I am coming back from the dead.

"Thank you for all you have given me, thank you for the gift of my little Peanut."    

All we have is now.

I am always trying to live in the moment... right here, right now. Very hard. 

Rehab is like summer camp, right?

Just returned from substance abuse rehabilitation a few weeks ago, it was a trip. I was sober for about 2 weeks before I went and a little unsure about going, but the family wanted it and I felt I should go.

I'm not gonna name the place I went, but the pictures online and their website (above examples) make it look like a restful resort... I will relax and focus on getting clean. Felt like i wanted it to be a bit more gritty, this seemed a bit to upscale for me. But what do I know, I've never been to rehab before.

I was dwelling on leaving and my brother kept saying, "Don't worry, it will be like summer camp." Man was he wrong! I got my wish, gritty was a fucking understatement! It was like going to prison. Now, I'm no hard core dude who's out busting the law and been in jail a bunch of times, but no pussy either. I'm your basic middle aged laid back and shoot the shit, mind your own business kind of drinker.

Man, this was the full experience! First, a 24 hour detox lockdown with strip search, along with various people slamming booze and shooting up on their way in, a lot of falling over, laying on the floor and projectile vomiting. Most people in this condition stayed longer than 24 hours obviously. For me, after 24 hours I was sent to the Men's north campus. My phone, wallet, all my snacks from the dollar store, even my wash cloth was taken and kept by the staff. No store for a week, no phone calls for 8 days and a room with no TV, but two room mates with beds on either side of mine both snoring all night. I didn't sleep for a week. Of about 94 guys, pretty much everyone there had been in prison, living on the streets, or going to a sober living home after rehab. Also, you had to watch all your stuff so it would not get stolen...

OK, after writing this I do kinda sound like a pussy, I felt like a homesick little kid! But have to say it's an experience I won't forget. I did learn a lot about myself and my triggers, had my first intro into AA, got to meet a lot of really cool and genuine people, and came further into understanding my sobriety.

I was only there 2 weeks. Would I do it again? No, I would opt for the intensive out patient rehab if I unfortunately relapsed again, that's just me. But I was told by a few people I met there that this is one of the better Rehabs compared to some of the other ones they had been to. And, personally experienced how this program has helped out a whole lot of people become and stay sober. So there is good!

First Post, Why?

For as long as I can remember (over 30 years), I drank alcohol every day. Beer being my biggest drink of choice. Most of that time I was a functioning drinker... go to work, do what I needed to do for the day, then come home in the evening and put down 6 or 8 beers and relax.
I have always struggled with anxiety and depression, so this was my way of letting go and feeling ok for the night.
This was the way I was for years, and to me, it worked. But the last few years I started to slowly snowball out of control... Covid, no work, weird work when I had some, awkward video meetings, family, dealing with a Mom who started the beginnings of dementia, my anxiety was out of control. I was now drinking during the day, before meetings, and numbing myself as much as possible. I was drinking more and much stronger beer, IPA's, and putting them down like water. Then I stopped eating, just drinking.
In the last year and a half I have been hospitalized 3 times, the first time for internal bleeding, all from drinking and not eating. As I write this I have been in rehab, and have been sober for 54 days.
I pray to stay sober, I'm not used to it, I feel upside down, but I need to. I'm hoping that writing what is on my mind will help me through it. And maybe someone else?